projection

he was mad, scowl-wearing and such. And curt with his spouse and with others too but mostly with her. she was easiest to blame and quite harmless and thus a perfect projection for his rages and his own problems, despite unfortunately her total innocence in creating any of them. the irony of the rages now being that he can at this point in life, with such vast and keen knowledge of himself, see where they, the rages, have spawned and which specific stressors are going to send his insides into a panic. he likes to connect them (the rages), via fashionable psychological utterances, to some retention failures as a toddler. no way to prove any of it but in short: something about his life had not turned out the way he planned and, being an anal-retentive in need of constant control, it filled him with a rage. this much was obvious and was practically a defining feature of our hero.